Do you have a best friend that is there for you through thick and thin? If so, you know your friend would do almost anything for you and always wants you to be happy. And you, likewise, feel the same. Perhaps you do almost everything together and even make big decisions together like where you will go to college and what you will eventually do in life. Maybe you’ve even decided to enter into the same career field. But, you must stop and think about that decision. Your career choice is not something to be decided on a whim based on what your friend decides. Below, we will discuss reasons why you may want to choose a career that doesn’t mirror that of your best friend’s.
Don’t Live Someone Else’s Dream
So, you notice your best friend is really excited about a certain career choice and thinks you should go into the same field and be just as excited as they are. But, you probably know that what works for one person is not going to work for another person. Maybe your best friend loves biology and chemistry, but that’s not your cup of tea. Therefore, your friend might decide becoming a doctor is his dream. It is okay to be excited for him, but this might not be your dream and if you try to pursue it, you won’t be happy. Don’t let his excitement spill over into what you choose to do because even best friends can have very different tastes.
Don’t Compare Yourself
It is normal to feel from time to time that you don’t measure up to your peers. But, a friendship can become competitive if you are constantly participating in the same sports and activities as your friend. And, it doesn’t get any better in the working world. If you’ve ever thought that you and your best friend should choose the same profession because you do everything together, you might want to rethink that. Jealousy and resentment can build up and ultimately end the friendship if someone feels they are not rising through the ranks or making the same amount of pay or more than their friend. If you choose a career you really love, you will not have to worry about this.
You’re Better Doing Something Else
Even if your desire to choose the same career as your friend for the sake of staying close to them, you probably know you are better doing something else. The best thing you can do is to make a career choice independent of what your friend decides. Think about what interests you and what you are good at. Your decision is going to have a huge impact on your life because you are going to be working for several years to come. So, you want to choose something that makes you happy. The last thing you want is to go to work every day dreading the work you do. You have to work. It is a fact of life. Just make sure it is something that is enjoyable because you’re going to be doing it for a long time.
Job Prospects Might Not Be Great
Even if you do want to go into the same field as your best friend, you might not have many jobs in the field from which to choose. For instance, maybe you and your friend are interested in artistry. Sure, you can get a degree in art and get a job. But, there really aren’t that many well-paying jobs for artists. You want a job that will provide enough support for yourself and eventually a family. Let your friend become the artist while you pursue a lucrative career.
While you are in high school and even college, it is natural to want to stay close with your best friend. No doubt, you’ve suffered through many heartaches and shared many good times. It may be hard for you to imagine that after all that you are going to enter the adult world and have a life separate from your friend. But, when life takes over, that’s what happens. You can still be close with your friend, but choose a path in life that makes you happy. That is what is important.
written by Miranda Smith on Sept 23rd 2017
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