are you developing into an introvert or extrovert person ?

Our relationships can mean the world to us. Friends keep us entertained, humble, grounded and help us establish lifelong connections. Over time, friendships may change, life can just happen and people change as they grow as individuals, start a new job, or go off to school. For many, our friends are reflections of who we are as people.

How many friends do you have? Are you developing into an introverted person, or an extrovert?

It can be hard to come to terms that you might lean more towards the introvert. Many often think that introverts are shy, grumpy and antisocial. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Introverts just function differently than the extroverted social butterfly, but they are good mannered people, with often high intelligence and enjoy socialization.

Here are some signs that you may be developing into an introvert:

You spend your free time by yourself – There’s nothing wrong with getting in some much needed alone time. It might be reading, going on a hike, watching a movie, or listening to some music. Alone time helps us on our road to self discovery and promotes relaxation.

Your creativity flourishes when you’re alone – When you’re working on something creative, maybe homework or that new painting, quiet reflection helps you produce your best results.

You Don’t Care for the Spotlight – Introverts don’t see the need at being the center of attention all the time. If you’re more comfortable letting someone else do most of the talking (even if you know the answer), you might be an introvert.

You are often asked for advice – Many introverts all share this one thing in common, they keep their opinions to themselves the majority of the time. If you’re friends or family are always asking you for advice or what you think on certain topics, it ultimately points towards introversion.

You wear sunglasses and headphone in public – This one is a bit strange, but introverts don’t actively seek to be noticed by others. With headphones (or sunglasses), you are establishing a barrier between the you and the rest of the world.

You Shy Away from Angry People – Introverts aren’t ones to feed off drama. If you notice someone is angry, you prefer to not interact with them. In fact, you have an acute sensitivity to angry people. This is a tell tale sign of being an introvert.

Small talk is not your thing – Maybe you’re at the store looking at that new cellphone, or simply getting some food for later. Either way, you are never in the mood to make a lot of small talk with people you aren’t super close with.

Are You an Extrovert?

If you enjoy socializing over staying at home, or a similar stimulating environment, you might be an extrovert. Extroverts thrive in social environments. They work well in highly energized environments, on teams, and have no qualms with being in the spotlight. Here are some qualities of extroverts that will help you decide if you are developing into an extrovert.


Being Alone for Too Long is Tiring – Extroverts love socializing and interacting. They love it, and practically need it. If you find yourself craving some time out with your friends, you are probably more of an extrovert.

You Love Conversations – Extroverts get a bit uncomfortable from silence. If you always look for reasons to strike up a conversation, you might be an extrovert.

You Have a Lot of Friends – Extroverts crave socializing, heck, they need it. Extroverts will have several groups of friends, and are constantly out and about.

You Are Likeable – Extroverts spend a lot of time talking and interacting with people. As a result, they develop into highly personable individuals. If you’re well known as the approachable, friendly person who gets along with almost everyone, you’re probably an extrovert.

Whether you’re developing into an introvert or an extrovert, it’s important to embrace these new changes and go with the flow. Introverts and extroverts both have their positive and negative qualities, but each have an important role and place within the world. Introverts may also show signs of extroverts and vice versa, the terms do not define who you are entirely. Everyone is different in their own ways, and it is important to embrace oneself and be accepting of others as well.

written by Charlie Blackman on Sept 18th 2017

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